Yes! Men can fall in love with Jesus and love him passionately, without it feeling homosexual.
However, I believe that for a man this type of a relationship does not look like the relationship it does for a woman. Yes, the depth, intimacy, and love is the same, but God created men and women differently. Yes we are equal, but being different doesn’t make us unequal. For example, IN GENERAL, the way a woman desires love is more through romance, emotional love, and to be pursued by their heroic prince. And in general (please don’t email me all about the exceptions, lol, I’m just trying to make a point), men are more interested in being the pursuer than the pursued. There are numerous ways men show love and respond to love differently than women, and my only point with even touching on this sensitive subject is just to point that out.
Both men and women can be passionately in love with Jesus, however, it will probably look differently. Without any sexual aspect to it there is no feeling of homosexuality in the relationship, because homosexuality is about physical sex. With men it’s more of friends “closer than a brother.” Men will have the marriage two-become-one relationship of knowing each other closer than anyone else, of sharing hearts and minds in a way no other relationship than a marriage can share.
Jesus goes straight to your heart, there is no physical entering-in needed. Because of that we’re talking of a love that transcends all physical. A love that creates an intimacy with men that causes them to be able to worship using marriage terminology while understanding it as a metaphor. In my answer to a different question I mention something I wrote to Jesus, saying in it, “Your arms are strong and powerful while Your kisses fall delightfully sweet…” Whether it is from me, a woman, or from a man, neither of us are imagining sex. It’s a poetic response to love, not a physical one.
However, I would suspect that men don’t usually approach Jesus from this marriage language unless it’s in worship. Men want an intimate, love relationship with Jesus that transcends any other relationship, but the intimacy and language will probably look different. They’ll come from a different perspective.
I have had so many questions about how a man loves Jesus as his Bridegroom that I’ve decided to include what my husband Terry wrote for my first book, The Wild Romancer. It is both about having a wife who is in love with Jesus and what his own love for Jesus looks like.
For a man to truly love Jesus as his bridegroom in a healthy, God ordained way, there is no sexual aspect of it, it is heart to heart. What makes it different than a brother relationship is that it includes what you get out of a marriage relationship with Jesus—the knowing each other and becoming one, plus learning to walk in the spiritual realm as a spiritual being, not as a physical being.
I tell more about this in my blog “How Does A Man Love Jesus as His Bridegroom?”
A man can use his imagination and do things with Jesus and practice his spiritual senses and do everything I talk about. A man belongs in the spiritual realm growing closer to Jesus. The only thing that makes my writing geared more for women is that I have included the romance that we desire, and the emotional intimacy women crave so desperately. However, there is nothing that excludes a man being that close to Jesus, because without sex a man can pursue Jesus as passionately and deeply as he desires, and it is within the marriage intimacy. Like in a physical marriage, his needs and desires look differently than a woman’s.
